Sunday, August 9, 2026

Status: The Exclusive Phone Call..

 

Status: That Exclusive Phone Call...

By

Vivek Hande








The word Status derives from the Latin word status which refers to condition/ position or state. This in turn is derived from the Latin verb stare which means to stand. Status as we understand it today, refers to social rank of a person in a group. A status symbol are the visible external things that attach to a person or workplace and serve as evidence of social rank. The word first came into existence around 1670s in a legal and social context.








Status Symbols are tied to societal changes and changing social norms and practices. They constantly evolve and what might be a status symbol today, may cease to be one, years down the line. Obviously, they serve as visible indicators of societal status, prestige and wealth. They may include luxury goods, exclusive experiences, practices, designation of rank or certain behaviours.



There have been some weird status symbols over the ages. At some point of time, certain colours and artefacts could only be used by the elite. The wealthy Victorians went through an intense Egyptomania phase where everything Egypt was flaunted as a status symbol. The highlight of exclusive dinner parties used to be the ability to purchase Egyptian Mummies and unwrap millennium old corpses gradually over the course of the evening. The evening would gradually wrap you around in a creepy awe...

Dinner Entertainment..


Chinese aristocratic women in the late 1800s/early 1900s would have their feet crippled as a status symbol. Girls from rich families would undergo foot binding and a steady breaking of toes and bones of the arch of the feet to make them look delicately lotus shaped and symmetric to enhance feminine beauty. Break your feet and flaunt your wealth and status! The procedure was mercifully, legally outlawed in 1912.

Lotus Feet: Break a Leg


When Columbus returned after his voyages to the New World, he brought back Pineapples and introduced them to Europe. The Europeans lapped up the succulent delight, but they were available at premium, and they had no clue how to grow them. Pineapples were hired for display for exclusive dinner parties and were regarded as gift worth giving if you had arrived in life.



I cannot say I am very conscious of status symbols but one has worn good watches, written with some expensive pens, driven some nice cars and felt good about them. However, in the mid-90s when I was stationed at Port Blair, Andaman & Nicobar Islands, as a Physician in the Naval Hospital, I would receive a phone call once in about four to six weeks. Nothing has ever matched the feeling of exclusivity and the high it gave me. More importantly, the phone call would make my wife feel very proud of me and I rose up a few notches in her eyes, at least transiently. It was a phone call one could not brag about, and one could only talk about it in hushed whispers. You had to be on the very special list to be on it. You obviously had to be very important and special to figure on it.  The list also had different status levels. I was quite on top of the list and it was an amazing feeling which did great for my ego. It still makes me feel good after so many years.



The Port Blair of those days was very different from today. There were few cars on the roads; two petrol pumps; four civil flights a week. I was one of the two physicians on the islands- the other being in the Government Hospital. I doubled up as a Psychiatrist, Dermatologist, often as the Paediatrician and I was the best Cardiology, Gastroenterology and Nephrology could offer.



Back to the phone call. Every month or month and a half, Madhavan would call me on my phone and whisper on the phone, “30 minutes Doctor; 3 plus 3”. I would leave everything and drive my trusted Maruti like a maniac to Aberdeen Bazaar. A designated spot and I would collect an innocuous looking packet and get home. Hand over the packet to my wife and see her eyes light up. Transient elevation by a few notches in her eyes. I do know a few others were on the ‘60; 2plus2 and some on the 90; 1plus1 list’. But there were a handful on my list on the entire island. I had treated Madhavan and his family a few months ago for Malaria and a particularly recalcitrant respiratory infection and that is what got me on the top of the list. 

30; 3plus3- the ultimate status symbol


Three Kilograms of Tomatoes and Three Kilograms of Potatoes within half an hour of being offloaded from the ships which came in from Calcutta or Madras once in a month or a month and a half! It could not have got better on the islands during those days when there was no fresh produce; very infrequent flights and limited commercial ship movement! Being on the 90;3plus3 was indeed the ultimate status symbol. Nothing else has truly matched that feeling of ultimate exclusivity and being right there!! Status, they say is a way to say who you are without having to spell it out...



146 comments:

  1. Excellent piece! Enjoyed reading it. Thanks 😊

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  2. Really amazing to read this. Exclusivity in Simplicity

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  3. Wonderful reminiscent thoughts, beautifully penned

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  4. Excellent ! great read—just what a Sunday needed!

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  5. Lovely piece sir,

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  6. So nicely put across, Sir, as also the perspective with which 'status' has been explained backed by good research!!!

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  7. Cmde Kalpesh Rawal (Retd)August 9, 2026 at 2:05 PM

    Brings back nostalgia... It really made few of us privileged ... cheers...🥂🤗⚓️

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  8. Pellucid piece. Excellent Doc

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  9. Brilliant. Exclusivity, I guess, defines it best. In NDA it was all about who could wear what in the Sqn (with VIth termers allowed to wear nothing (@#₹%^&) and how one could mov in the Academy. Nothing like the small pleasures and privileges......

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  10. Coimbatore NarayananAugust 9, 2026 at 2:19 PM

    It is fascinating how objects, brands and lifestyles often become proxies for identity, achievement and social standing!

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  11. Excellent sir. The suspense on what the phone was , was there till the end. And I had absolutely no clue that this was the reason. Grips the attention till the end.

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  12. Thought provoking and a look back in to the past, not only about you but also about the world. Thoroughly enjoyed, Sir. Thank you and warm regards.

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  13. Wonderfully written. I remember being in Port Blair for a yachting Championship around the same time and one of the lighter skinned contestant's very unsuccessful search for Sunscreen.

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  14. Another good one sir…your book is due..

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  15. Sir enjoyed reading excellent ,in fact was waiting since long.
    It is a good learning experience besides reading an interesting article never knew about the lotus feet
    Regards

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  16. Your sentence lands, exceptional clarity and rhythm sir.

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  17. Good afternoon sir. What a great writing skill you have. You amke the stories so engaging and interesting. You words and thoughts are praiseworthy. Regards

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  18. A wonderfully nostalgic take on the idea of “status” The “30; 3plus3” of Port Blair. The way you connect exclusivity with simple joy makes the story both humorous and heartwarming. A delightful read.

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  19. Good one sir - each piece gets better 🎊

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  20. Wonderful read, as always

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  21. Delightful read....as always!

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  22. Sooper Sir. Victorian Egyptomania and Chinese Lotus feet are funny and stupidity. Your status at Port Blair was worthy indeed. 3kgs of potatoes and onions were absolute treasure at that place and at that point in time. Enjoyed reading. Thank you Sir

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  23. Excellent reading Sir. Enjoyed a lot.

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  24. Excellent writting sir,l was waiting since long
    Thank you sir

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  25. I spent 2 yrs plus (2017-19) there but things were much better, though difficult as compared to mainland....Indeed. Interesting article

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  26. Grounded brilliance! Proud of you

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  27. Having served in Andaman twice, I can well understand and relate to the feeling. Interesting presentation of perspective.

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  28. Enjoyed reading it. Thanks for sharing sir

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  29. That’s an interesting one, Sir! As always!

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  30. Wonderfull, enjoyed the read sir

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  31. Simply outstanding piece Senator, captures the Status feeling with the phone beautifully, great going, God speed

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  32. Nicely written!!

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  33. Well researched piece !!! Loved the climax !!! 3+3 in 90' Thoroughly enjoyed reading it.
    Warm Regards.

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  34. Again a masterpiece sir, after such an awaited read, the thrill and suspense kept glued till the last word. Enriching anecdotes, factual tales and humorous personification all synchronized like a perfect symphony. Regards

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  35. Very well conceptualised. Touched, as I could feel the same. Been a surgical Spl on the island had a chance to operate diaphragmatic hernia on a neonate and could see my status rocketing as boat would wait for me to leave for bamboo flat from Chatham jetty

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  36. Excellent writing sir.

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  37. Ha ha ha. Fantastic piece sir. We faujis are happy with these little privileges. Problem is most are no longer happy with this and desire more and more of it. That creates a privilege driven gap in society when haves and have nots are clearly distinguishable.

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  38. Enjoyed reading Sir, Thank you for sharing

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  39. Nice narration sir. Very much relatable and relevant

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  40. Just like the status symbols, the status too remains ephemeral! Compliments for an insightful piece of writing Sir!!

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  41. Wonderfully penned as always sir

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  42. Dear Sir, 3+3 was really great..

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  43. अति उत्तम, Senator.

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  44. Absolutely wonderful

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  45. Superb as always sir
    Ever changing definition of Status with time and place
    😊

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  46. Very well articulated.Cheers.wishing you good health and continued to contribute to the society and family

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  47. Fantastic read sir! Enjoyed every word of it.

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  48. As Delicious as those fresh tomatoes and potatoes 😁

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  49. Aloo tamatar ka sahi bhaav hai status. Amazing perspective Sir.

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  50. Very well chosen topic😃. We Indians love the VIP culture, which I believe is an off-shoot of our love and aspiration of achieving a Status Symbol! For me it was a car with a beacon!! Alas, the government took it away, just before we were about to reach that level🤪. As regards your musings on Port Blair, having served on a LST (Landing Ship Rank) we visited Port Blair frequently. It was a very clear Law, though unwritten, that if you are calling-on a coursemate/friend, thou shall carry a bagful of fresh vegetables from the mainland, otherwise your status would be relegated from a friend to un-friend (ly) act😉.

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  51. A wonderful piece sir, enjoyed it. Regards

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  52. Wonderful anecdotes Sirjee...
    Loved reading through it...

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  53. Superbly crafted with an endearing nugget about status as a huge privilege in an island! Status must not be trifled with when handling others but so lightly carried by the author as he reminesces here! Thank you for trivia and trip down nostalgia!

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  54. Loved the narrative Sir, no wonder you titled it as the "status symbol" exclusive phone call😇 Can totally relate to the veggies being nabbed as soon as they were disembarked from the ship coz the same happened with the aircraft too in the forward areas up north
    Thank you for sharing!

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  55. As always, a unique subject and insightful expression with a delicate hint of wit and humor!! Thanks SENATOR!!

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  56. Always a pleasure to read such short and captivating trivia from you.

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  57. In many remote areas docs would get these value adds. Great times....got eggs, fresh milk, jalebis(!), fun days....

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  58. Dear Vivek,
    You have really mastered the art of making any topic interesting. Enjoyed reading. May your status as a blogger continue to be on the rise.
    Looking forward to reading your next piece.
    Daddy

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  59. Great write up ...

    Beautifully narrated.

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  60. Simple delights, 3+3. Physician aka ‘the doctor’. You were the most important man on the island. . Thanks for sharing Sir. A lovely read.

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  61. A very deep and beautiful thought sir

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  62. Excellent piece....

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  63. Amazing read. You did build the climax well. Never thought, the potatoes and tomatoes could elevate status to such giddy exclusivity.

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  64. Hey Senator! Lovely article. I remember the few weeks I spent with you guys at Port Blair!!!

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  65. Thoroughly enjoyed reading. Very nicely brought out that simple things in life can also be status symbol. Thanks for sharing.

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  66. Good evening Sir. Excellent communication of a boxful of hisory, memories , wisdom, analysis of each event and environment...... outstanding ability to keep every minute things in memory and convey very beautifully....
    .wonder how you get time for this in your busy schedule.....

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  67. Excellent as usual sir🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

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  68. Viv Sir you are too good in expressing yourselves. Very nicely articulated and researched. 3 plus 3 was ultimate.You still retain the Don Juan charm with the ladies making your status very high.

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  69. Brilliant sir. Too good sir.

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  70. Absolutely delightful read Sir...already waiting for the next...

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  71. Excellent piece sir, after a long break. Easy on the eyes in your trademark fluent style. Loved the build up to the 3+3. Status symbols, a way of saying you have arrived without saying it.

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  72. A delightful piece, sir! Fascinating references to the status symbols of the past.

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  73. Very well reasrached and nicely articulated piece. I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. Thank you for sharing it with me. Look forward to more such pieces.

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  74. Thoroughly enjoyable and informative writing as always. Thank you sir for these and looking forward for many more such pieces.
    Regards

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  75. Having been to Port Blair around that time, I can relate to the scene painted. Fresh fruits and vegetables were a rarity. Everything was dependent on mainland ( India) and the ships/ weather and several times costly In Car Nicobar, where we stayed for 3 days to be able to recruit at least one soldier, things were even ore interesting...

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  76. Good evening sir
    Very well described and wonderful write up sir. Thank you for sharing and you made the topic very interesting and enjoyable.
    Thank you sir

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  77. Definitely reaonates sir...

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  78. Delightful
    Specially the phone call and tomatoes and potatoes mystery

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  79. A wonderfully nostalgic and witty reflection—proof that true status isn’t always about luxury, but about rarity and the feeling of being special. The “30; 3+3” story is priceless!

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  80. Being on the mailing list of Senator is the ultimate status symbol that has endured the test of time - classy one Vivek. Keep ‘em coming.

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  81. Another great piece sire !!

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  82. Status symbol…. Very nicely explained sir. Nice piece sir yet again !!!

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  83. Abhilash UnnikrishnanAugust 10, 2026 at 8:02 AM

    nicely said sir.

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  84. Very interesting facts on "STATUS" and the corollary with tomatoes and potatoes in A&N Islands reminds me of the Onion prices ranging from ₹ 80 to ₹ 130. Looking forward for more sir

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  85. Writing such as this hands out hope that AI will never catch up with humans fully. Wonderful piece, as always!

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  86. Nicely written sir. Enjoyed reading it

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  87. https://www.vincentvangogh.org/potato-eaters.jsp

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  88. Dear Sir, fabulous composition as usual. It was very interesting to read

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  89. Excellent articulation Sir.

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  90. Truly relatable with my time in HAA with my wife

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  91. Admiral Hande, this has been a really sumptuous read (while I understand that the word sumptuous would actually relate to a meal) this pen of yours has put the things in the right perspective to imagine and understand the thought behind your simple and catchy work. Look forward to more.

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  92. Well written as expected. To think that I would crib about the produce coming out of cold storage despite ships coming in twice a week....

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  93. What a gem this is! You’ve taken something as abstract as “status” and grounded it so beautifully in a memory that’s both funny and touching. The build-up to “30; 3+3” is masterful storytelling, I was genuinely trying to guess what that mysterious phone call could be about, right until the tomatoes and potatoes made their grand entrance.
    What stays with me most is the tenderness tucked inside the humor: the image of your wife’s eyes lighting up when you handed over that packet says more about love and simple joys than any luxury watch or fancy car ever could. It’s a lovely reminder that exclusivity was never really about the object itself but about being seen, valued, and remembered by someone like Madhavan, whose gratitude turned into your family’s little monthly celebration.
    You have such a gift for finding profound reflections in the ordinary corners of life, and wrapping them in wit, warmth, and wonderful history along the way. Please keep writing, Vivek. Every piece feels like a small, generous gift to your readers.

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  94. Nicely penned down sir👌

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  95. "Say who you are without having to spell it out"

    Probably that itself is a goal in life ; to Improve upon the status. !!
    Delightful blog sir.
    Enjoyed reading it ...

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  96. Great sir enjoyed reading
    After long time
    Thanks

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  97. Enjoyed reading it sir

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  98. Nice one Vivek. You always come out with something new from your pitara……. Now I will flaunt of another status symbol that I am on the friends list of Vivek Hande👍👍😀😀. As always enjoyed reading it. You are great man……Brig Naveen

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  99. Very interesting Sir. Great article

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  100. Master piece ,
    Midas touch ,
    Marvellous Writing
    Senator
    👌👌👌

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  101. Excellent write up as usual on a very relevant topic.Enjoyed reading. Reminded me of few episodes of famous 3 IDIOTS MOVIE ....status symbol of shoes, luxury watches values more than human relations

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  102. Great piece Vivek...👏👏👏👌

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  103. Alpasantosham! Small joys in life, sir, Worth much more than several things in life. brought a smile and a few memories.

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  104. Brilliant piece of writing. Small things brought lot of joy.

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  105. Cdr Abhishek Kankan, NM RetdAugust 11, 2026 at 10:51 PM

    Truly a 90, 3 plus 3 account 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌

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  106. Superlike sir!!

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  107. Simply outstanding and refreshing.

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  108. Enjoyed thoroughly Sir. How to weave a routine life event into an enticing story line is the art of a master author.

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  109. Lovely sir, simple and elegant

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  110. Very well written Sir!! Thoroughly enjoyed reading the article.

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  111. Surg Cdr Dev Prakash SharmaAugust 12, 2026 at 1:57 PM

    Nice piece of literary work again Sir. Waiting for your next.

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  112. Kudos for the great piece Sir. Your vivid description and dry humour made it a memorable read

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  113. Sir,, yet again a beautifully written piece of literature... The style appears effortless though deeply thought provoking...

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  114. As always, thoroughly enjoyed reading this. Loved the bit about the 3+3 😀

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  115. Excellent and as usual fantastic style for engaging readers till end and always with new information incorporated sir.
    Thank you for sharing sir
    Regards

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  116. Awesome piece Sir!how times change,nowadays youngsters have another ‘status’,the one on WhatsApp 😊

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  117. Very well written, Sir. I was there with you in the Naval hospital as Pediatrician. Can very well correlate the state of Porrt blair during that. time.. Please continue the good work Sir

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  118. Such a well written and interesting article, really enjoyed reading your thoughts and insights. Waiting for more.

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  119. Enjoyed reading the article, so well written and completely resonates

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  120. I enjoyed reading this piece. It is well-articulated.

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  121. Delightful… Thanks, Vivek !!!

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  122. Nice one ! Reminded our PortBlair days too

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  123. Vimla Rao,Pune.Good reading Vivek.You have created special status for youself by becoming a doctor and a writer ! Interesting topic elaborated!Enjoyed reading.August 15,2026

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  124. Wow. Simple joys of life well portrayed. Nice read. Reminds me of our postings where Fresh Palak & Karela & Bhindi were a status symbol & a conversation starter in many a Dinners.

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  125. What a delightful and thought-provoking read sir! It beautifully captures how the symbols of status and exclusivity keep evolving—and how, sometimes, it is the simplest, most understated things that quietly place you in an entirely different tier. Truly elegant, insightful and wonderfully observed 👌

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  126. Very well written sir 👏👏

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  127. Beautifully penned down Sir. Thought provoking and nostalgic.

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  128. Sir, very well written. Really enjoy you insightful thoughts

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  129. Time dertermines our need to survive joyfully . Some time yeh dil bole Na mangu sona chandi,Na mangu heera moti... ..

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  130. Thank you for Insight sir, rgds

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  131. Sir, It was interesting to read about your unique experiences and their perceptions as status symbols!

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  132. Unwrapping Mummies over dinner-Gosh. Brilliant- as always Thanks for sharing

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  133. An engaging and enjoyable piece Sir, Regards

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  134. A very delightful read, Sir! An interesting reflection on the history and sociology of status symbols and a wonderfully nostalgic and hilarious story from your Port Blair days.
    A very enjoyable combination of history, nostalgia, humour and personal memory.
    Thanks for sharing sir

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  135. A very nice read Sir !! The basis of STATUS SYMBOL so nicely explained with interesting historical part. And beautiful anecdotes of portblair - thoroughly enjoyed Sir
    Regards
    Shuvendu

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  136. You have taken an otherwise abstract idea, like “status,” and transformed it into a wonderfully engaging journey through history, humour, nostalgia, and, ultimately, the simple joys of life. The suspense surrounding the mysterious phone call and the eventual revelation of “30; 3+3” is beautifully crafted.

    What makes the piece particularly special is how you remind us that status is often not about wealth or extravagance, but about rarity, privilege and the joy of being special in a particular place and time. The Port Blair anecdote brings that message home with warmth and humour.

    Superbly researched, brilliantly narrated and wonderfully evocative. A thoroughly enjoyable read!

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  137. As good as it gets sir. Such nostalgia you bring. Wonderful

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  138. Sir, this brought back hundreds of memories of the past which I lived through again. Thank you

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  139. Fabulous writing and sheer nostalgia, Vivek!! Been there, done that! 2 tenures and countless sailings after quitting the Navy! Fond memories of Pradipta and you being so helpful to both of us and our kiddos! God Bless and Congrats on your well deserved promotion. Cdr Kushal Mukherjee

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