Monday, October 26, 2020

Hande-d Down

 

“Hande-d Down”

By

Vivek Hande

 


 

 

 


 

Family Names or Surnames, as they are often called, can be serious business. They are also called Last Names because traditionally in the English speaking world and most other places it is used at the end of the name. Though that could be  used as a Forename (ahead of the personal name) in some communities, even in India. While Shakespeare may have believed ‘that which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet’, I am not too sure about that. One’s  family name is something handed down to you and is virtually one’s identity for life. It is something which defines you. It opens doors; at times gets them shut firmly on your face. I daresay it may be the most important word in one’s world. It sets the template, in many ways as to how you lead your life. It would be so because it is linked to one’s culture, family, origin and community and often to a profession you grow up to.  Incidentally, the study of the etymology, history and use of proper names is Onomastics or Onomatology.

 

 


 

The use of Surnames dates back a long time. In Europe, it dates back to the Roman Empire; in China almost back to the Second Century BC. In most societies around the world including India, the lady assumes the family name of the husband after marriage. But that too is no longer the absolute norm and some ladies prefer to retain their maiden surnames and some append it to their original family name. Interestingly, the UN Convention on the Elimination of all forms of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW), 1979 gives the same rights to the woman /wife to choose a family name as the man/husband!! Incidentally, the most common Indian Surnames include Devi, Kumar, Das and Singh. Worldwide, Devi figures in the list of most common surnames along with Wang, Smith, Ali and Ahmed..

 

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

The use of surnames very often tells an interesting tale. Some surnames put you in a certain ethnicity /geography without doubt. A Banerjee cannot be from Tamilnadu; an Iyer can’t be a Punjabi. Most often the surname is patronymic, derived from the name of the father or ancestor.  The surnames could be locative – giving an idea of the location of origin : Kolhapuri(Kolhapur); Sholapurkar( Sholapur); Someshwara( Someshwar). The family name could be Toponymic , giving an idea of the Topography of the place of origin : Doddamani,  a family name in Karnataka; the name translates into ‘big house” in Kannada.  Hadimani is “house next to the road”.  Hill or Green are common surnames in the West. Very often the name gives an idea of the profession – Baker/ Carpenter/ Taylor. Bakshi , a common Punjabi family name traces its origin to ‘Bakshi’ in Persian which means paymaster.  Bhatt is a name common to both sides of the Vindhyas and originally they were the ‘learned ones’. Bedi is someone who had knowledge of the Vedas. Gandhi, in Indic languages means a perfume seller or grocer or a pharmacist. Parsis leave nothing to doubt, Sodabottleopenerwalla or Batliwalla , for instance. A rose by any other name.. I seriously doubt it..

 


 

 Well, I am fiercely possessive about my family name. When I was in Medical School, I had two batchmates who went by the name Handa. It was taken for granted I was Handa too. They are both very good friends and I have nothing against the name either, but it was a question of identity and ethnicity. The proud Kannadiga in me would repeatedly stand up during attendance (we were before the era of Biometrics) and point out class after class that, “I am Hande with an E”. After a few months, many of the Professors would point out to me and remark, “He is the chap with the E!” The name has been the source of many stories over the years. One of my senior colleagues, a Kashmiri himself, decided that I was Handoo , a common Kashmiri Pandit name. I was very often a guest for dinner at his house and fed on feasts made by his marriageable daughter. I was very soon banished when realization dawned that I was an “E” from South Kanara district. Then of course there have been the umpteen jokes on my fondness for eggs (I am not much of an egg eater) but the Hindi word for eggs kind of sounds similar. I have received letters addressed to Dr. Honda- I am sure I don’t look too Japanese and nor did they know I am fond of the car. Many have called me “Handy” –I suppose I must have been useful in some way. Some have called me “Handle”- I do think they were being rude about my weight perhaps. Others have had my name autocorrected to Handel; no violent objections with that – he is one of my favorite composers..

 

 


 Believe me, each of the family names hides an interesting story; a story worth digging into. I would urge you to look more carefully at your family name – it might throw up some interesting tales.

 

 


  I do agree with Salman Rushdie when he says, “Names, once they are in common use become mere sounds, their etymology being buried, like so many of the earth’s marvels, beneath the dust of habit”.

 


111 comments:

  1. Loved this! I am proud to be a Relia-Hande now

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  2. Very interesting, In India the surname conveys very useful information about a person. His caste, his origin & sometimes also the area or the village he comes from.

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  3. Very very Interesting n stimulating. I was told by the DC, Ukhrool in Manipur border district way back in 1984 that Britishers had studied every surname and the clan to which they were associated. Maybe worth digging in archive of district HQs/Library.
    You have rekindled that old memory

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    1. Bali, 6 Dogra days! Great to see your comment.

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  4. Awakened thoughts on origin of my surname Ayyagari

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  6. Interesting. Nicely articulated. Never really thought about one's surname with the same perspective. Need to get to the bottom of being a "Mukherjee". Cheers.

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  7. As usual a great write up by you sir. I never knew so many things which have now become clear to me with regards to names. Agree with you that names have now just become sounds and not correlated with the deep meaning they have .
    Thanks for sharing

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  8. Very well written Vivek,and brings out all the confusion caused by your name in college days. We all face some confusion all the time and your article brings out loving memories of another batchmate by surname Menon who had her own way of pronouncing it and God bless anyone who digressed from her way of calling out her name. Great article

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  9. Viv Sir ... .intriguing write up as usual....loved the way you hande'eled the strategic handling of your name....keep the ink flowing...

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  10. This is written so well.. a lovely learning opportunity

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  11. Dear Vivek

    Such a beautiful and illuminating write up in your refreshing style

    Enjoyed every bit of it

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  12. Another great one from you Sir. Loved it !

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  13. Very interesting indeed Never knew Gandhi means Perfume Seller. I have noticed that first names have an impact on personality, Vivek means Knowledge clearly visible in vkhande blogs

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  14. Sir,
    This is an excellent exposition on Surnames and Titles. We awaot your next blog on somewhat... 'What's in a Medical Name'

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  15. Hand-le-d the pen as dextrously as scalpel.👍 Interestingly families from Maharashtra have included some other species of animal kingdom in their surnames... Wagh, Kolhe, Landge...Living with true spirit of Vasudhaiv Kutumbakam..😃

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  16. What's in a name ...A lot indeed ..nice re visit . Some surnames have maintained their genealogical history by continuation of genes down the generations...it might be possible to trace their origins by some mitochondrial RNA comparisons some day..maybe.. But curiously very occasionally people of same/ similar/ similar sounding surnames do act & behave similarly.. Migrations across regions have similarly brought modifications in the Names and Surnames..Very interesting subject indeed ..A big thumbs up

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  17. I believe ...Bhrigu samhita ..is an analytical compilation of these ..This topic has been contemporary ..and scientific since Bhrigu Rishi ..Vivek you have rekindled and re ignited curiosity and in a short crisp brilliant way , well done

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  18. Loved that !! Brought memories of my Mallu surname being “Hande’d” in school in Goa .., your hallmark ... the breezy style conveying so much shines through this too! Keep writing more often !!

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  19. Gotta Hande't to you buddy.
    Great piece

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  20. Just too good Sir ! A very interesting narrative which brings smile all the way through !
    Waiting for the next one !

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  21. Such a lovely topic ,Vivek....names,esp surnames,i too feel, tell a lot abt a person...and i sincerely hoped so when i added Singh instead of kaur as surnames to both my daughters names....wishing they wd grow up true to their surname...lioness...and they sure did😉 ...you make each topic so interesting...looking fwd to reading many such more.

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  22. Amazing as usual..Sir.
    Still it is a mystery for me ...Hande is a महाराष्ट्रियन Sir name ??? I learned today about your exotic ideas of Fun of driving all sorts of vehicles. And sound so interesting...out of the world.

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  23. Sir very well written and interesting to read I too have retained my maiden name Agnihotri and did a research on the origin and was informed by my dad it has Come from Agnihotra
    I admire your passion for writing.

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  24. Sir very interesting to read and admire your passion for writing and thank you for sharing

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  25. Vivek very well written. I like your style of writing

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  26. Vivek its a very well written text..I wonder what the origin of Chatterjee was.....can't wait to find out..May suit me as I speak all the time...but every met a taciturn Chatterjee???

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  27. Very well researched & thoughtful as usual.Whats in the name? My surname Subhedar combined with Naval Rank as I gre from SLT SUBHEDAR to VICE ADMIRAL
    SUBHEDAR always puzzled people in Armed Forces .

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    1. A Subhedar would own a Suba, about 15000sq km.

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  28. What a read sir!!!! It would be absolute fun to dig out the wealth of knowledge in finding out the real effort of our ancestors put in behind so many Indian 'last' names...kudos to you sir.

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  29. Absolutely engaging Vivek.. writing comes naturally to you and this is a master stroke 🤗

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  30. An absolute treat to read.. beautifully penned.

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  31. Have to Hand it to you - beautifully written!

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  32. Thoroughly enjoyed reading Vivek anna while living it on a daily basis. Whenever there is mix up between Handa (Punjabi) and Hande (Kota, South Canara) I tell the people the distance between them is 2500km😀.

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  33. Senator is back with a bang. Hande d down nice and proper. A very interesting read as always🙏👍😊

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  34. A fascinating read. As always all your blogs lead to divergent thinking about so many simple and taken for granted topics to which one has never really applied one's mind.

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  35. Interesting read with a touch of humour !

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  36. Typically Vivek Hande. Must Hande-it out to you. Great read.

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  37. Interesting and refreshing as always. Got me thinking about mine.

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  38. Not high handed about handling this topic, Vivek😊 my first name has innumerable pronunciations & spellings so Ive stopped correcting and simply adopted the funniest one - Chairman🤣

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  39. very interesting post. thoroughly enjoyed reading it.

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  40. Nice one sir..simple topic..great narrative. Hilaruous and informative

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  41. Sir very well written as usual with typical ur style and refreshing to read.
    Waiting for next one!

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  42. BODAPATI SIVARAMAKRISHNAOctober 27, 2020 at 5:21 PM

    Interesting read

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  43. Informative with your inimitable style of humor. Loved it.

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  44. Informative with your inimitable style of humor. Loved it.

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  45. Very interesting read Sir.
    This comes from you after a long gap.
    Enjoyed reading your experience....
    Waiting for next

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  46. Very interesting and very well written sir...

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  47. Another exellent article Sir , the subjects on which you have given thought and written are topics we deal during our day to day life and informative as well as hold me spellbound to complet the read. The era of attention deficit hasn't affected this read due to its contents and lucid writing. Waiting for many more.

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  48. What an article.. Too good.. never realised that there was so much to a name

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  49. That's a lot of info sir. Thank u so much for sharing..

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  50. As always an enjoyable and informative read

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  51. Interesting way of relooking at the part of name we took for granted all along 😊

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  52. Fascinating & interesting write up threaded in a wonderful sense of humour.


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  53. Wow! Very nicely inked Sir... your selection of this interesting topic concerned with one and all... the views shared, and the the way the reading becomes more and more intriguing as you keep continiuing... again substantiates your command on language and it's presentation... 👌👌🙏👍

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  54. Dear Hande sir, what a beautiful blog. Love you.
    Regard SK Rai, Ortho surgeon

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  55. Dear Hande sir. What a beautiful blog. Love you
    Regard Lt Col SK Rai

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  56. Extremely interesting and very refreshing, Sir! It was an absolute pleasure reading this piece. Thanks for sharing it. ��

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  57. I only knew the "Dr Honda from Port Blair" story. Amazed to see so many more. Keep them coming, Sir.

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  58. As usual a beautiful blog... well researched.....and perfect command over language. Thanks for sharing.

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  59. Sir amazing! Loved it!!!very well articulated.

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  60. Padmapriya SrinivasanOctober 27, 2020 at 10:28 PM

    Very well written...
    Enjoyed reading sir

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  61. Masterpiece Sir... never realized there is so much 'treasure-hiden' in surnames ...now i am curious about dimensions of my own surname too...You Must publish a book of your amazing posts Sir

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  62. A good read sir, enjoyed every moment of it.
    Regards
    Jes ( jesse meaning root) Rapha-el (rapha meaning heal, el meaning God)

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  63. A very thought provoking, rekindling and good read Sir. I am sure that after reading this article I cannot stop myself from Onomastics of 'Panda'

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  64. Very well written Vivek.
    Now you could go for a Version2.0
    With an overview of Indian names, the Tamil way with just appa's name, the Maharashtrian( American ) way with the father's name sandwiched between the first and sur-name, or the Andhra way, where some, like my family, with tongue- twister village names ( sur names) settled for a Rao instead, or. Singh's and Rao's like many others are titles rather than surnames in the true sense.
    Take this for instance-
    My eldest sister ( D Batch) was presented with an MBBS cert that read lie this
    Awarded to .....
    " ShobaRani Lt Col BDP Rao Rao"!
    The rest of us sibs, got clever in filling the forms for the Ist MB roll numbers!

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  65. Very nice read,as usual Vivek. Your choice of topics is always so interesting. But you didn't enlighten us with the onomastics of your (sur) name !

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  66. Fantastic Hande. Inspite of doing NDC together I didn't know you wee kannadiga. Apart from that, the article tickles ones brain as to the importance and relevance of surnames. Interesting reading. Keep up the good work!

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  67. Very well written Vivek. It made me recollect my school days when our Vice Principal Satyanarayana had same surname Ravada. Really very good thought and subject regarding names and Surname. Loved reading it. Awaiting for your next blog

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  68. You nailed it ,Sir. My surname is as enigmatic as it can B. Having the only surname of its kind in the Armed forces, I'm a Legend in my own way, the closest one being a neurosurgeon retired long back,I outranked him with a L in between. Looking forward to more blogs. Do count me in your mailing list.Youre truly an inspiration. Regards

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  69. Hi Hande,
    This brings back memories of the Asvini OT in 92' where the,Dept Head of Anaesthesia/OT was Surg Capt Tarneja with an "r" in his surname also an AFMC-ite.When I joined the Dept as piddly Surg Lt Cdr Taneja,his first interaction with me was Rajeev ,bugger remember I am the original one !!

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  70. Excellent insight to the last name .

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  71. Many names indicated the place you came from. Khanna, Mehta, Malhotra are few examples. My surname is also derived from a sect of kayasthas who migrated to Mathura!

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  72. Awesome Handsome sir👌👌😁😁

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  73. Sir.
    It's very interesting and enjoyed reading. Awaiting your next write up soon.
    Regards

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  74. Very nice article which surely will bring a smile to anyone who reads it.

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  75. Very interesting sir...enjoyed it thoroughly..the surname suits you big time

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  76. Sir, very interesting and nicely expressed topic as it forms the identity of an individual. Really, name is very dear and special to everyone...

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  77. A real insight into "what is in a name ". We may casually write "a" instead of " e" but it makes all the difference to the person concerned very will written

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  78. Amazingly well written; quite seriously thought provoking if you look below the surface of aptly inserted humorous references...Superb!

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  79. Senator
    It's apt
    Tujhe pata hai mai kaun hoon
    Well written
    N accepted by homo sapiens

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  80. One can have fun as well as tough times if he or she has an uncommon surname as in your case. Very well written and interesting to read, Sir

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  81. Well articulated and a good read.

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  82. Very nice read....An insight to names....which never crossed my mind

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  83. Very interesting write up with deeper understanding about our ancestry, place of living and many other facts about our surname. Enjoyed reading

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  84. Nice one Sir. Do keep enlightening us as always...

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  85. Interesting indeed.
    In fact with my surname Mehta, I was thought to be a Gujju bhai during my stint at Mumbai, with people often enquiring "Vivek bhai Mehta tamey kem chho?" ..... But definitely, could have some good fun too during Navaratri dandia!!

    Looking fwd to another relishing piece from you at an early date....

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  86. Thoroughly enjoyed loved it Sir... So good so that read through all in one breath... Waiting for next read

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  87. Excellent/ very interesting read!!

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  88. Very interesting article sir, though surnames are the last names, a person is first identified by it.

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  89. I admire your writing skills and this topic I have thoroughly enjoyed . Knowing u and working under u for so many years let me confess Sir I thought U are a punjabi Handa and like many of us have spelling error courtesy
    school or college records u have E as error in spelling. My apologise .
    I related to ur story "PRIZM is my name and not Surname" second sentence I speak whenever I meet a new person after I introduce myself. So yes , every Name has a story to say. Ask anyone.What is your story?

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  91. This one is in the league of "The name is Bond. James Bond" :)
    And it has certainly struck a chord (over 100 comments!).

    Really enjoyed it. Especially because I can connect with the events at college. And also because my surname has been similarly affected.

    Posing a question - HOW MANY OF US REALLY KNOW THE ORIGING OF OUR FAMILY NAME?

    We don't have the European tradition of building genealogies. I hope this article has sparked a curiosity amongst all of us to reach out to the elders and find our roots.

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  92. Sir it was fantastic- as always. Informative and engaging.

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  93. Vivek, I'm receiving dirty looks for giggling. It was thoroughly enjoyable. to "Hand"in my two bit, a name is not what you are called its what you respond to.

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  94. As always, another masterpiece dished up by you , Hande sir!! Informative, thought provoking and humorous..with a wonderful blend of words and anecdotes... was a pleasure reading the piece

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  95. Very good.This is very informative and thought provoking ....

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  96. As always sir, brilliant, witty and well researched. Looking forward to the next one.

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  97. Gr8 Vivek! Humorous and very well researched. Vidyashankar, U batch. When I went abroad, I was and am called dr. shankar. some think I am Shakir and others shenker, a true blood Jewish!

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  98. A very well researched and analyzed article which showcases your vast knowledge and experience.

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